I just got together with my bf late last year. Everything is perfect and we are happy. He’s had flings with girls in the past when he was single and I accept that.
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But he doesn’t know that I had flings too (and I was attached to my ex bf). Do I come clean? He never asked but assumed that I had exes not flings. I feel bad for “lying” but I think society judges women more than men and I don’t really want to tell him in case we don’t work out and he blabs about it to others. Is there an unspoken rule about coming completely clean on relationship history?
Here are what netizens think:
- If he didn’t ask, then no need to rock the boat? I mean what’s the point of knowing when both of you agree it’s the past? What can you change about each other’s past? So knowing will make you feel better or something? Or that it can be used as emotional blackmail or some other leverage against each other when you hit a rough spot in future? I don’t get the dating dynamics these days.
- Your intention to tell him is to absolve yourself of some guilt or you think it’s something that he should know about you? Think about your intent. Since you’re unsure, don’t tell. If both of you are immature, this topic will just be a form of ammunition during arguments.
- Bury the past. Telling only makes you feel good but might dent your r’ship so why be bothered about a long ago thingy?