GIRL UNSURE WHY FRIENDS AND FAMILY KEEP FIND FAULT WITH HER WHEN SHE DID NOTHING

Hi,

Need to seek some advice.

I’m puzzled why is people always finding fault with me.

1. I had a good relationship with my sis-in-law until I was pregnant with my son. She is being very sarcastic and hostile when her husband is not around. She has a daughter.

End up I had an ugly relationship with my in-laws. I voiced my unhappiness and end up in-law saying I was jealous of Sis-in-law. 

2. I had 2 good friends. When I’m facing difficulties in life, they were there for me. They are my closest friends who have seen me at my worse. But when i was picking myself up and trying to be happy again. They will pour cold water.

One of them even ignored my messages when she found out that I was promoted to snr post in the company. I did not announce that I was holding a senior post, it just happened during meet-up when friends asked what is my designation. 

Hopefully, the netizens can enlighten me.

Thank you.

Here are what netizens think:

1. In the case of your sister-in-law, it’s possible that jealousy or insecurity might be driving her behavior. Pregnancy and the arrival of a new baby can sometimes create changes in family dynamics, and it’s not uncommon for tensions to arise. It’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your in-laws about your feelings and try to address any misunderstandings. Clear communication and empathy can go a long way in resolving conflicts.
   
2. Regarding your friends, it’s disheartening when the people you expect to support you start behaving differently. People’s reactions to your success or personal growth can vary, and sometimes individuals might feel insecure or envious, leading them to respond negatively. It’s important to surround yourself with friends who genuinely support you and celebrate your achievements. If these friends continue to pour cold water on your happiness, it might be worth reevaluating the nature of those friendships.
   
3. Remember, each person’s behavior is influenced by their own experiences, emotions, and insecurities. It’s essential to have open and honest conversations to address any misunderstandings and seek resolution. Additionally, focusing on building a positive support system with individuals who genuinely uplift and celebrate your successes can contribute to your overall well-being.