My boyfriend (22M) rated me (20f) a 6 on a scale of 1-10.. which has really lowered my confidence and I don’t feel desired everytime we get physical. What should I do?
My boyfriend (22M) and I (20F) were playing some immature games and he started rating random people based on physical appearances.
He rated me a 6 which didn’t bother me until he rated my best friend an 8. I feel very insecure and ugly every time I look myself in the mirror. I’ve lost my confidence.
I communicated about this and he apologized and told me he loves me for my personality but I can’t take this shit out of my mind and can’t help but feel ugly everytime I’m with him, getting physical.
I don’t feel desired anymore even though he keeps telling me I’m hot. It just feels like he’s trying to cover up for that thing.
Netizens’ comments
- He’s totally negging you. Trying to make you feel ‘down’ and insecure so you don’t look at his lacking personality as well as physicality.
I’ve never played this game, but my husband always (I know he is not exactly telling the truth) told me from day 1 how I was a 10/10 or infinity out of 10. The point being is, your partner should want to hype you up, appreciate you, compliment you and love on you.
OP. You should turn it around, rate his friend as a 8 and him as a 5. He’s not going to be happy about it too. - Listen. Partners do this in a relationship to break down your self esteem and trap you with them. Dump him, he’s a loser. You’re hot and you have a great personality. Kick him to the curb and find someone who tells you how incredible you are everyday.
- I would’ve been like “It’s funny! I always saw you as a 5 and your friend an 8 too! that’s so crazy like it’s enough to break up!” Then I would’ve broke up with him. No way I’m dating someone who thinks my friend is hotter bc he must’ve checked her out
Edit: I’ve asked my bf this before and he would say infinity and beyond! Get yourself a bf who who appreciates you and loves you - There’s so many things here that he said wrong. Ok the 6, would hurt anyone. But then your friend ? Nah bro. Even if he thinks she’s a ten it’s so impolite to tell you she’s higher then you.
And by the way, just because that’s what he rated you doesn’t mean your a 6. At this point you should release yourself from this relationship, because the damage has been done and it’s affecting your intimacy with him.
And the icing on the cake he says he’s with you For your personality ? Ok that’s nice but that didn’t make the pain go away for his first insult?
That’s like saying he’s D is a 6 on a scale of 1-10, his friends D looks like his would be an 8, and that your man shouldn’t worry because even though he’s small and cute , your with him for his personality.