I have a good friend since secondary 2.
We would spend our recesses together and then chat about our school work and we even know each other’s families.
I’ve been to her house more than 5 x and even allowed her dad to operate my leg. That’s how close we are
Then she told me she wanted to leave for Europe and US to study. I was sad to see her go but I gave her my blessing to go pursue her journey and promised if there’s a chance to visit, I’d go look for her.
So I visited her in Europe.
Throughout her PhD journey, she showed me her work more than 3x and asked for my advice.
I willingly gave her my honest opinions which she used in her papers .
She once called me urgently before my work for a rant about her professor and I obliged as I knew how much of a b- that prof was.
She would trauma dump when times were hard and her shrink wasn’t available. So you know we were each other’s confidante.
Last year, I visited her in the US. It was a planned surprise. Only her BF knew and it worked. She was super stunned and glad I came.
That week, we spent time touring her campus and some time together. We took pics and i uploaded them on my story.
However, when I came back, I posted our travel pictures of us on SM but strangely she wasn’t so happy her pics were up there and told me to take it down immediately. I obliged.
I wished her Merry Christmas, Happy new year and a safe flight home.
But Then. there was a strange silence and little/no contact…
I wanted to ask her why. But she said meet another time to talk. I thought ok.
This week, her paper was out. She told the whole wide world but she didn’t tell me privately.
I read her paper and to my astonishment, she thanked many of her friends but didn’t include me in the acknowledgement.
She even thanked another prof she didn’t like. So I felt deeply hurt. 16 years of friendship just like that.
Update: she said she’s sad and wanted to wait till Feb to resolve the matter.
If she can tell the whole world first about her prof life but not even her friend whom she has used. Maybe I should tell the world how she took drugs there 🙄
Am I the problem or not ?