A netizen shared how she feels like she is dating a VIP and has to fight for time with her boyfriend against everybody else.
Here is the story
My bf has too many priorities and I feel bad for “wasting” his time on dates
Hoping to get some advice here.
My bf and I have complete opposite personalities. He is very outspoken and have many friends, whereas I am an introvert that keeps mostly to myself. One thing about my bf is that he’s a very caring and “fatherly” kind of person as he’s the oldest son in his large family, which was what attracted me to him in the first place. However, this seemed to have become a double edged sword, as he is constantly trying to take care of and solve problems for everyone around him.
Sometimes I feel like I’m dating a VIP, having to always vie for his time among his friends and family. Even when we are spending our precious weekend hours together (we are both working FT), his phone will always be buzzing non-stop from the never ending texts. He even paused halfway through when we were doing the deed once to check his texts…
The thing is, he has never once asked to cancel our plans to meet his friends and has always assured me that he will try to put our relationship first. But the moment we agree to postpone or cancel any plans he will immediately be “booked” by someone else. This just makes me feel guilty for spending time with him. It seems like I am occupying his precious time when he could be using it to help someone else. And I don’t want him to feel obligated to be spending hours with me when his mind is clearly someplace else. I have spoken to him about how this was bothering me before and can see that he is trying to balance out his time but it is clearly not working. He just has too many priorities.
I love this guy very much but I just don’t see how this will get any better, especially when he has hinted on getting married and having kids together one day.
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