Hi Just need some dating advice and maybe the opinion of sg men
I am a 25 F who had been focused on academics + career for all her life. Now just trying to get into the dating scene. Not having much luck in the workplace and so I have turned to dating apps. I am used to being chased, but things never go past the 3rd date where I lose interest or I notice something that maybe wouldn’t work if we get into a relationship.
Anyway, this time, I matched with a guy, like a 30 year old, with a work schedule almost as busy as mine. We text daily leading up to our first meeting and I thought we had a quite good time. (Nothing amazing, but it wasn’t horrible).
And for the first time, I arrived home with no “let’s do this again next time” text, which is a new experience for me. Because I wanted to meet again, I sent a “see u again soon? ” text and he replied with “sure haha”, which I tried not to read too much into.
After that, we continue to text somewhat daily. There are days I get too busy to return a text, and other days he’d do the same, but there was still continuation of conversations, initiation of new ones on both parts. But what bugs me is that there is no initiation of another date…
I tried to hint, saying that I have taken leave from work some time next week and all he said was “it is good, you do need to rest sometimes”. I am pretty straightforward usually and wouldn’t mind initiating another date, but I can’t help but feel like maybe I needed to read the room?
I have discussed this with friends and their advice to me varies: from ask him out, maybe he didn’t want to seem desperate? To maybe he isn’t that interested, don’t waste your time. I have to admit, at this point, I am clueless myself if I am attracted to him or just bothered because he bruised my ego.
This has never happened to me before and I wonder if I am getting the taste of my own medicine. He is an attractive person himself, and so maybe I have met my match (pun intended).
Some insight into a sg guy’s mind would be nice. Maybe I am a boring date? Am I just being left as an option to him? Thanks in advance!