I am a guy, and recently I encountered a girl who told me she wanted a boyfriend with a high salary.
At first, I was taken aback and somewhat offended. I come from a middle-class family, and I certainly don’t make a high salary. I’ve always prided myself on being a self-made man and working hard for what I have, so it was a bit of a shock to hear this from someone I was getting to know.
The girl and I had been talking for a few weeks, and I thought we had a good connection. We had a lot in common and I genuinely enjoyed her company. I thought things were progressing in a natural way, so I was taken aback when she suddenly brought up the subject of money.
She said she wanted someone with a high salary, and that she thought it was important for a successful relationship.
I didn’t want to be rude, so I tried to explain my situation in a respectful way. I told her that while I thought it was important to have financial security, it wasn’t the only factor in a successful relationship. I also told her that I wasn’t sure if I was the right person for her if money was her main concern.
She seemed to understand what I was saying, but she was still insistent that she wanted someone with a high salary.
At the same time, I told her that she needed to think about her own financial situation. I told her that she earned too little to expect a man to be able to provide for her, and that she needed to work on improving her own financial situation before she could expect to find someone with a high salary.
So I made it blunt for her, I asked what her salary is and it was 40% lower than mine. I thus decided to teach her a lesson and told her that she earn too little and she is not a good fit for me.
I was disappointed that the girl and I weren’t able to take things further, but I’m glad that I was able to tell her the truth. I hope that she takes my advice to heart and realizes that money isn’t the only factor in a successful relationship.
I also hope that she takes the time to work on improving her own financial situation so that she can find someone who is a good match for her.