I’m want to get to know you but I don’t know what to do!
There is a guy that I am curious about and I want to get to know better, but our positions at work make it difficult to get acquainted with each other.
To sum it short, I work for the parent organisation and though we are around the same age (I am ~3 years younger), I am basically his boss’ boss’ boss.
So any form of personal contact is overstepping boundaries. He has my number saved because of work, but we do not converse. I also do not save his number because I do not want to do anything suspicious. I only know he saved mine as I can see his phone number on telegram.
I met him because the parent organisation goes to the smaller branches to do checks, though not frequently. I can count the number of times we interacted on one hand.
Not saying that I want to pursue a romantic relationship with this person immediately ( I don’t even know if he is attached), but I would love to get to know him better if given the chance as he seems like a very sweet and gentle person through our few interactions.
It’s been about 2 years and each time I’ve met him, I usually end up thinking about him for days, which explains this post.
Any advice is appreciated please
Here are what netizens think:
- You are his boss’ boss’ boss? That makes you his great grandma. Don’t eat up little boys lah.
- Huge power imbalance and it would be inappropriate to date a colleague. If I were him, I would not dare to go out with you. If it goes sour, he would lose his job. And if it doesn’t go sour, it would still be supremely awkward for him to go out with his boss’s boss’s boss.
- It has been 2 years and neither of you knew each other on a more personal basis, beyond being mere colleagues. Him adding you on Telegram probably meant nothing, not a big deal. I second other people’s suggestion that you should widen your social circle.
- You can leave him alone and find someone outside work who’s more compatible with you?