Is anyone else also super fixated on being successful in life?
I feel like my entire world revolves around being successful and if not i am amount to nothing in life. Its an overachiever mindset but i feel like ive taken this too far where it consumes my whole life
Everything i do, hobbies be it gym or recreational stuff i feel like i must be the best.
I enjoy reading books then suddenly its now become a matter of how many books can I read, i need to beat last year’s number.
Even gifts for my boyfriend, i constantly pressure myself to beat last year’s presents to him.
I initially picked up jiu jitsu for fun then i didnt enjoy it anymore cus i started training for competition and it wasnt as fun anymore.
I feel like theres something wrong with me
Netizen’s comments
- are you aiming to be the best, or are you aiming to be better than yesterday? because hard truth: you’ll never be the best.
hear me out. i understand where you’re coming from. i am similar to you; i consistently pressure myself to improve and be better. however, i think it’s important to remember the difference between being the best vs being better than you were yesterday.
if you want to be the best, trying your hardest is not enough. doesn’t matter how much you try unless you have freaky genetics, there’ll always be someone better than you. similarly, this extends to every other aspect of your life as well. if you keep chasing to be the best, you’ll never be happy. you’ll keep asking yourself why someone can do x thing but you can’t do it. some people are just built different.
WITH THAT SAID, there is nothing wrong with striving to be better than you were yesterday. if you accept that your only true competition is yourself, i think that aiming for progress is a good thing. otherwise, it would be boring if you’re stagnant and never challenging yourself. of course, you should also recognize that you will have bad days, and that you will have many of them; just gotta pick yourself up and keep going.
look back at where you were last year and see how far you’ve come. next year, look back at today and see how far you improved since now. celebrate all your little milestones along the way because you’re now better than you were the day before. don’t let the chase for progress stop you from celebrating what you worked so hard for.