I don’t know if I should break up with my boyfriend. Advice please?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I was upfront with him and told him since the start of our relationship that I had baggage over my exes always initiating the talk of marriage and then afterwards just being reluctant to commit afterwards
Didn’t keep to his promise as to when he will propose
I don’t want to go into further detail but in both cases both exes did me quite dirty. I’m no longer in contact with one, and the other has reached out to apologize for what he put me through and expressed regret at giving me that baggage.
When I first met my boyfriend, I told him how pathetic it made me feel and that it was a deep insecurity I had, that guys would pursue me hard, swear to move the earth for me, etc….and then when it came down to it, all of it just never happened.
My boyfriend said he would be different, and told me he would propose at the 2.5 year mark (2022).
We spoke about it at length and several times we confirmed we would be engaged by 2022. He even tells this to my mother and grandmother of his own accord. We have the ring ready.
2022 comes and goes and he hasn’t proposed. I ask him about it and he asks for an extension. I’m a bit sad since he never initiated the conversation and I had to bring it up, but I agree. We have end Feb in mind.
I asked him today again, since end Feb is coming . He asks for an extension again and this is honestly killing me. He has the ring, and he’s had 14 months to plan. I don’t get it. I don’t need anything extravagant but just something that shows he’s put thought into it.
He hasn’t even asked me for my schedule for the rest of feb, apart from this though we’re a great couple and don’t fight. He tells me I’m the love of his life everyday.
Afraid that he will end up like how my exes treat me, so I want to break up
I love him but I feel my boundaries are constantly being stepped over and disregarded. I hate that I’m the one initiating these conversations and every time it just makes me feel resentful.
I know my past baggage and insecurity is playing a part here but I can’t help how crappy I feel.
I love him so much but I’m also already planning the breakup conversation in my head.