Im thinking of breaking up with my fiance.
We’ve been together for 4 years. I love him to death. But for the last 2 years he hasn’t had a job and he has no motivation in life.
All he does all day is play video games and smoke. I fell in love with a working man. I know sounds cliche but it’s true. Him having a job made him attractive.
But now, I’m losing attraction to him every day. I can’t even bring up him getting a job because he gets so upset about it.
I just got a really good job and I have a goal for my life. I have a plan. He has nothing. I thought about this a year ago and told him he needs to at least start, START or I would leave.
He hasn’t done anything. I’m scared if I actually do break up with him tho, it’ll push him over the edge. He’s said multiple times I’m the one for him and if I leave him he’s going to die alone.
My situation is also the exact same as my parents. My dad doesn’t have a job and drinks all the time while my mom works her butt off.
I don’t want to end up like them. Unhappy for thirty years where he was gone for about 20 of those. I don’t want the man he’s become.
I want my old partner back.
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Tell him exactly this. It will become very clear how much he actually cares about you and your relationship in the coming weeks.