Not because he’s pro life.
Not because he didn’t get consent.
Not because abused me in any way.
By all accounts he’s been nothing but kind, sweet and attentive. The reason I’m done is because despite knowing who I am he treated me as hysterical and ridiculous today.
It was a small disagreement and nothing consequential. The argument isn’t the problem. His response to it was.
This was a casual relationship on the face of it. I care for him, I’ve enjoyed my time with him, but my mom always told me those famous words from Maya Angelou: ‘when someone shows you who they are, believe them.’
She always emphasized the last part to me, ‘and believe them the first time.’ You know what? She’s right. This wasn’t a big argument. This wasn’t a big deal. But his response to something so small tells me everything I need to know.
I know who I am, I like who I am, and I worked hard to get that way. I don’t deserve to spend my time teaching someone how to show me and my feelings basic respect.
Maybe my standards are too high. Maybe I just don’t want to invest my energy wholly in a relationship. Maybe it’s a lot of things or none of them at all.
What I do know is that I love and respect myself enough not to let anyone make me question that