A few months ago my (31M) sister (29F) announced that she was going to get married. The planning process took a while but the date and venue were agreed on. Now, my sister has a baby (1M) that just loves to cry. He cries all the time unless someone takes him outside for fresh air.
Her boyfriend and her kind of shotgun and the baby came out before the wedding as they were dragging here and there until the baby popped out already they also haven’t married.
So they can’t make up for it by having a wedding ceremony before CNY.
During the wedding
So during the wedding, the baby was crying none stop and she wanted me to take care of it. No matter what I did the baby won’t stop crying unless i bring the boy outdoors.
When I asked why the baby didn’t have a sitter, she said that they spent all the money on the ceremony and parties.
I was kind of annoyed because I wanted to sit in on the ceremony, but just about everyone jumped on me telling me to do my sister a favour and that “it was her day”. I asked her about when I was expected to take the baby out for fresh air, and she gave me this huge list of times that basically meant I missed out on the important parts. I wouldn’t be there for the exchanging of vows, the reception, the aisle walk, the readings, the kiss, etc.
I figured out that in total I would have about 30 minutes actually sitting inside, and the rest was just about the baby. When I pointed this out to her she said someone would videotape it for me but I wasn’t convinced. I wanted to watch my sister reach a milestone, and that was what I came for. I told her that someone else could watch the baby for her and that as her brother I wanted to watch the wedding, and not have to miss her getting married. Again, she told me to “just do it”.
That was the final straw, and when my mother was holding the baby I slipped out and just left. The next day I get a call from my sister, and she’s screaming about how I ruined her wedding and how the baby wouldn’t stop crying. I told her that I left because she treated me like a babysitter instead of a guest/family member, and said that it was her fault if she couldn’t get a nanny or ask a friend to do it. Since then I’ve been nuked with calls from family calling me selfish and telling me that I’m effectively disowned unless I apologise.
Why should I apologise? Diao kia no money hire baby sitter then make baby for what?