I’m a guy who was led on by a girl… mildly infuriating.
Firstly, my story.
So one day in class I saw this girl I liked and asked her out to lunch. She said yes. We had lunch at a nice restaurant in a shopping mall, where I paid. From then on, we got along very well, we frequently met up, and chatted very well, all over the period of a month. By ‘well’, I mean ALL our meet-ups were one-to-one, we took turns treating each other to lunches, and we texted each other for hours on end, sometimes late into the night.
I was interested in her, and I also thought she was interested in me.
Then one fine day I confess my feelings for her. She looks genuinely shocked (and I’m shocked at her reaction too), then she says “I’m sorry, I already have a boyfriend, I thought we were just friends…”
By the way we have a mutual friend whom I’ve known for some time. But I only met the girl a month ago, so she wasn’t my friend prior to me asking her out. It was pure coincidence that my friend happened to know the girl quite well.
Later I found out from this friend that she already had a bf LONG before she met me, and she only saw me as a good friend from the very start. This friend also told me that she felt bad if she gave me the wrong impressions and was truly just trying to make new friends in the course, and wasn’t some stupid reason like trying to make her bf jealous.
The mutual friend is someone I know for some time and trust. So, if she truly is a nice person and wasn’t trying to make her bf jealous or what, I think she led me on because she was either lonely or something.
Now, my rant.
This has left me feeling kinda infuriated. I feel like I’ve wasted emotions. I invested some degree of emotions into this only to get heartbroken. Like, girls, ASSUMING you aren’t doing morally questionable things like gold-digging or making your bf jealous, you don’t agree to lunch at a RESTAURANT, with a NEW guy one-to-one, AND let him pay, AND to top it all off CONTINUE to meet up with him in a similar fashion, UNLESS you are interested in him as more than a friend, right? It’s just not normal! If you were interested in a new guy at first but later lost interest, then fair enough, but this girl already had a bf and wasn’t interested as more than a friend from the start. So it was really unfair for her to agree to go out one-to-one with me more than once, when she was never interested, as that would give me the wrong idea that she’s interested when she never was.
Sharing this partly as an appeal for all not to lead others on. It’s just not right.