Around 8:30AM today i woke up to my boyfriend punching me really hard two or three times, closed fist. i just laid there for a minute before i sat up to face him, when i did, he immediently opened his eyes, i left for the bathroom and while i was gone he left to get us coffee. I haven’t said anything.
I say alleged sleep because he hit me hard, hard enough to wake him up too i’d assume, especially considering how fast he woke up from just me looking at him. i was laying close to him so i feel like he would’ve had to bend his arm to hit me square on my head like that.
He also has done this before, it was after we watched a greys anatomy episode where a guy from the army chokes his gf in his sleep due to ptsd. When it happened the first time he told me it was because of ptsd.
I told him that ptsd only works like that if you have a history of violence or abuse which he does not. His suspected undiagnosed ptsd would stem from us finding his dad last year died. He has a lotttt of other issues even before then, a lot of things that make my friends say run, but i want to hear more opinions on this, i have to go to work now but if this post sees any interest i’ll update with the type of things he’s done in the past.
He has history with angry actions even before his dad passed. He does the thing where when he’s driving and he gets mad at me he’ll stop the car rly fast or freak out and it scares me.
I’d also like to add the scariest road rage i’ve seen. One time not long after his dad died he thought i was giving him a look and lunged at me as if he was gonna hit me, but stopped. He DOES (or used to a lot) attack himself a lot in my presence, he’s bloodied himself up in front of me, sometimes- but not always- when the anger is from me.
I’ve had to jump in a few times to stop him from like, rapid fire punching his head. He is in therapy, that was an ultimatum i made over a year ago, but he just finally started a few months ago, and he has skipped most of his sessions.
He is not diagnosed ptsd. I’m very close with his family and his siblings and violence is not something they ever mentioned either of their parents doing to any of them or anyone.