I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We were really happy together and I never felt like anything could go wrong.
We could hardly keep our hands off each other and it felt like he was always the one who wanted to be around me the most.
But then something weird happened. I gained 20kg. It wasn’t intentional, but I had been struggling with my weight for years and it just kind of happened. I was expecting my boyfriend to be understanding and supportive, but instead he started acting distant.
At first, I tried to ignore it, thinking it was all in my head. But soon enough it became too obvious to ignore. He stopped calling and texting as much, and when we did talk, he was short and distant. He stopped holding my hand when we went out and he rarely seemed to want to kiss me.
I couldn’t help but feel hurt and confused.
I tried to talk to him about it, but he always brushed it off. He said he was just busy and that he still loved me. But I could tell that something was wrong. I wanted to believe him, but I couldn’t help but feel like he was pushing me away because of the weight I had gained.
I started to feel really insecure and I started to doubt our relationship. I was convinced that he was going to leave me for someone skinnier, someone who he thought was more attractive. I felt like I was never going to be enough for him. I even started to worry that he was cheating on me.
I was so desperate to get him back that I tried to lose the weight. I started going to the gym every day and I was eating a lot healthier. But nothing seemed to work. I wasn’t losing any weight and my boyfriend still seemed distant.
I was so frustrated and hurt that I decided to confront him again. I asked him why he was so distant and if it was because of my weight gain. He finally admitted that it was a factor, but he said that it wasn’t the only reason. He said that he had been going through some personal issues that he was dealing with and that it was making it hard for him to be as close as we used to be.
I was relieved that it wasn’t only because of my weight, but I was still hurt. I felt like he should have been honest with me from the start, instead of pushing me away. We talked for a long time about our relationship and how we were going to move forward.
At the end of the conversation, we both agreed that we still loved each other and that we wanted to make it work. We decided to take our time and be patient with each other. We also agreed to talk more openly about our feelings and to be honest if something was bothering us.