To all the men in here, and anywhere else, I’m gonna tell you how simple & easy it is to be considerate and not make a woman uncomfortable.
Title is self-explanatory but I’m gonna break it down because I see and hear things that drive me absolutely bonkers.
My buddy has a 4yr old dog, we’ll call him B, and will sometimes drop him off at a doggy daycare during the day while he’s at work so the little dude doesn’t get lonely. Other times, if I’m working from home, I’ll take a lunch and pick B up.
We usually go to a regular park depending on my workload. Two Fridays ago I took B to a dog park and he poo’d but I forgot my poo bags. I was searching the bags at the park for one but I can’t seem to find one. A young lady was standing next to me saw me looking for a bag. She asked if I wanted one and I said yes please. Our interaction was short and simple.
Her: Did you need one?
Me: Yes, please.
Her: Here you go. (She made brief small talk to be friendly.)
Me: Thank you. (Also made brief small talk to be friendly.)
That was it and it literally only last about a minute or two. End of interaction. Some guys will take this as a cue that she’s into you or that she wants to go home with you. Why? Because she talked to you? Did you a favor? No. Smarten up! Please, thank you, move on. You’re not owed anything. Read the cues and respect personal space.
I grew up around 4 women, plus a mom, and no dad. I heard these stories of discomfort growing up. Sexualizing girls at a young age, staring down women at the MRT station, hollering at them while they’re walking down the street.
You’re not entitled to anything. If you’re a guy that does this, I hope to gods you get sprayed on by a skunk, after walking through poison ivy, while wearing shorts. I would say how I really feel but I want to be as civil as possible, which is exponentially more than you deserve. The excuses you tell yourself are about as intelligent as the rock you threw at a river when you were a kid. This awareness, this human kindness, is for anyone and everyone.
To all the men who are gonna want to fight or disagree with me: Take your head out from where it is, put it back on your neck, and learn to be a decent person.