My boyfriend doesn’t like my tattoos, saying he can’t guarantee he’ll stay with me if I get any more
I (18F) need some advice on what to do going forward with my (18M) boyfriend. My boyfriend is this amazing loving, supportive guy.
We’ve been together only a few months now but we just click so well. The only thing we can’t seem to agree on are my tattoos.
He says he just doesn’t find them attractive and feels conflicted because he knows how much I love them and doesn’t want to stop me from getting them, he just feels he’ll lose attraction for me.
He says if I get anymore he can’t guarantee he’ll stay with me. Now I don’t know what to do because I love him so much, but getting tattoos brings be so much joy and I love adorning my body in such a way. Do you have any advice?
TLDR: is it worth getting more tattoos if my boyfriend might break up with me?
Netizens’ comments
- I don’t know is it worth it? only you know the value of your relationship. I can go ahead and break it to you now though, odds are against your relationship lasting(no matter what you choose) so keep that in mind. I mean they are really against your relationship lasting.
- I’m gonna be more prescriptive here and say, yeah, it’s totally worth it to break up. This is one of those things, where, even if the bf doesn’t have any malicious intentions, he still comes off accidentally being controlling and manipulative.
I’d chalk it up to youth and emotional growing pains, but there’s a valuable lesson here: for bf, if you don’t like tattoos, maybe don’t date the inked up girl; what’s next, complain that your peanut-allergic gf won’t make you peanut butter brittle? For you, OP, a very important lesson is that “I love him so much and he’s almost perfect” isn’t enough. We are 99% genetically identical to chimps, but no one’s overlooking that one percent just because they love the chimp so much.
On a more serious note: you can choose to not get tattoos and then low key resent him for the rest of your life, or he could accept that you’re going to get more and resent you. Either way, doomed relationship. The very fact that he’s even dating you with all preferences laid clear tells me that he’s not going to suddenly have an insightful breakthrough that will save your relationship.