I think my boyfriend (25M) fancies my sister (20F)
I’m having such anxiety at the minute which has been triggered by things that have happened in the past.
When I was in 6th form a guy came up to me and said “what’s it like having a sister who’s prettier than you?” My sister who is three years younger than me had just joined the school. This guy had obvious issues and I just ignored it knowing it was just him trying to get under my skin. Every time I brought my sister round my guy friends though I could see they were interested in her.
When I was 18 I was having drinks at my house with some friends and my boyfriend at the time (now ex). When my sister walked in my boyfriend nudged his friend to get his attention so that he could notice my sister and they both looked at each other. They didn’t notice me watching them. We broke up later that night from a cumulation of other things.
A few years later I started dating another guy and it was amazing. It was a normal and healthy relationship and he treated all my family members like they were his own. Unfortunately we decided to break up because of religious differences.
Anyway, I’m (23f) now dating my current bf (24m) and I don’t know why but I’ve harboured so much anxiety about him meeting my sister for fear that he might be attracted to her. For one my sister is more of his type and two I can’t say I feel like I 100% trust him. Last weekend he met her briefly for dinner and they said hi but I could tell he was struck by how attractive he thought she was. Since meeting her he asked a question about who’s she currently dating and it’s exacerbated my worries.
It’s worth noting that I have a good relationship with my sister and if my sister thought something was going on she would tell me straight away.