A netizen shared how her boyfriend is “too stubborn to listen” and that he is always late for their dates and makes her wait for more than 2 hours on their dates without letting her know earlier that he is going to be late; among other things.
Here is the story
They always say communication is the key. But my bf is too stubborn to listen. He has been always late and just let me wait for more than 2 hours without letting me know earlier that he will be late due to XXX reason. He just doesn’t bother to let me know earlier and sometimes doesn’t even say sorry. I don’t know if he doesn’t feel sorry or what. I have been communicating with him nicely so many times. No, he didn’t come back late due to OT or work. He just went out to have dinner or hang out with his close friends, and I’m sure he is not cheating with other girls.
Just to give some examples –
For some weekend nights, even he always promised to come back home around 10-11pm but every time will be late for more than few hours, he might come back around 2am. Sometimes he even will tell me he is not coming back, maybe he will come back the next morning around 10am. But the next day he didn’t come back at 10am, even until 8pm I still haven’t heard from him. I will be waiting anxiously and sometimes can’t even fall asleep because I’m worried of him.
I don’t know if he has a punctuality problem or he just doesn’t respect me as a person don’t respect my time.
They say you should give some space and freedom to your bf, that’s why I didn’t ask too much at first. I will send him WhatsApp texts and ask him where is he now but since he didn’t reply, I don’t want to call him and annoy him.
But now it’s getting worse. He didn’t even tell me who is he hanging out with, when i ask him ” which friend? Tell me the name and the address pls ?” He will just say some male names and tell me those are his colleagues. But he just doesn’t bother to let me know the details. All I know was “he went out to meet friends, meet colleagues
“but I didn’t even know ” why he went to meet them? For what? What time coming back? And where ?”
I’m definitely not a controlling gf as I respect his space and never check on his phone. But what he is doing now is killing me. I told him I’m very upset because of this issue he said ok he will change but still behave the same.
But when it comes to me, I will let him know who im hanging out with, where am I and I even send him my live location. If i didn’t tell him, he will ask me cause he wants to know. I never hide things from him and always willing to inform him earlier if I’m gonna be late or if there is any changes.
Is it normal for guys to behave like him? I don’t want to make a scene as I’m trying my best to understand the problem and looking for a solution for both of us. Please advice.
Netizens’ comments
- You sound more like his mom than his gf…
- Good lord. Demanding to know the names and addresses of the people he goes out with?That explains everything. You don’t know how psychotic you sound like because you think this possessive and clingy behaviour is normal. It’s not.