GIRL’S BF USED TO SLEEP WITH OTHER GUYS – KEEPS IMAGINING HIM ON THE “RECEIVING END”

A netizen shared how her boyfriend is bi and all his exes are all guys, which she doesn’t have any issues with. But she found out that he is on the “receiving end” of his past relationships and now she feels like he can’t provide her with security.

Here is the story:

“My boyfriend is bi and his exes were all guys. I’m aware and don’t have any issues with IT.

Recently I got to know one of his close friends and he briefly shared that my boyfriend was the bottom in all his relationships and hookups. I thought he was kidding but he laughed it off and said I can ask my boyfriend if I don’t believe it.

I’m a bit thrown off as my boyfriend looks like the top in a gay relationship instead. He’s tall, fit, tanned, and is quite well endowed down there.

I didn’t ask him directly initially and snooped around his room when I stayed over. While rummaging through belongings, I found his adult toy and it’s bigger than mine… wtf.

I confronted him about the adult toy and asked him about his bottom status and he didn’t even deny it. He said he likes the feeling from receiving and uses the adult toy now for his own pleasure now that he’s attached with me.

He even clarified that’s where the male g spot is and there’s nothing to be ashamed of receiving pleasure from there. The only taboo is straight people might see it as gay, which he emphasizes is not as it’s an anatomy thing.

He also reassured me that he enjoys sleeping with me and has never betrayed me with any guys. I trust him on this.

I tried to move past all of this but it’s challenging, especially when we sleep together. I will imagine him being penetrated and dominated and I just lose all my interest in him. I just cannot unsee and unhear that he’s a bottom.

My subconscious self also tells me that he’s less manly and can’t provide me with the security I need. I know it’s selfish of me to think this way but I can’t help it.

Anyone who has the same experience or has advice on how I should deal with this?”

Editor’s note: He’s not cheating on you, so what’s the problem?