Yesterday I (31F) received a mail from the clinic after I had a check up for my health and found out that I’ve contracted an STD. I showed my boyfriend (32M) and immediately asked him if he’s done anything.
This is not the first time he’s given me something and said the reason for the first time was he went down on a girl when we were on a break.
I believed him and we got treated. We moved on from it and two years later. He fully denied it this time and even tried to question me if I did anything and I know for a fact that I didn’t and I tested negative for results just about a year ago.
I’ve only been with him since then. We live together now so I was confused and mad that this happened to me again especially as I thought we were planning for a family and a future together and this disease can mess with my fertility.
After some time he said it’s possible to contract the STD from foreplay with another girl. He told me that it was a dare and that’s why he did it and that perhaps that’s were he got it from.
I asked him to call that friend and confirm that in fact he really did dare him to do that. And he said he didn’t want to get embarrassed in front of his friend.
Im unsettled because since he’s already given me an STD twice and both times he’s saying there was no penetration?!? But what are the chances that the only two times he’s ever did anything unfaithful he contracted and infected me with it?
It’s hard to believe what he did and didn’t do. I feel like he’s done more and it upsets me that I have to pay for it every time and I only find out from health records.
I still love him but totally see him in a different light and I don’t know if I can trust him again. I feel stupid if I try to work it out with him again.
What if this happens again?! What should I do? How should I approach this situation?