Ex-Boyfriend Won’t Stop Telling Every Guy I Cheated Even Though It was 10 Years Ago
When I was 19, I had an unexpected pregnancy. My ex didn’t want to keep the baby, but I did and we stayed together anyway. She was born with a birth defect and died at two days old.
Because I knew my ex never wanted her, I definitely blamed him (which was wrong). I was upset he didn’t care like I did. I ended up cheating with a guy at a support group whose young child also died. I take full responsibility. We broke up, and I took a big break from relationships and pursued personal therapy.
My ex is married now, yet every relationship I’ve been in since (three, including my fiance), he’s messaged the guy warning him that I’m a cheater and the second time even messaged the guy’s parents. Both the relationships ended shortly after, and now he’s contacted my fiance, who I actually told ahead of time and understands.
I found out the reason why he’s been able to find out about all my relationships is because he follows a ton of my family members on Facebook (I don’t have it). Do I tell everyone to block him? I tried to talk to him about it and he says if I don’t tell them I’m lying by omission…but it was ten years ago. He says that it says something about my character that can’t be fixed with time. I went to therapy! It was horrible, horrible circumstances and I honestly don’t think I’m a bad person.
I don’t know if it would be wrong to take this to his wife. I’m afraid he’s going to tell my fiance’s parents or my future kids. I just want him to stop. What would you do?
I was 19 at the time, my ex was thirty, and we’re 29 and 40 now.