I am supposed to be getting married in 2 weeks but my fiancé does not want me physically anymore
So i am engaged and madly in love. And everything is perfect. Well, except for one thing. My fiancé never wants me physically, never shows interest in me that way and when I do tells me to stop or changes the subject continuously.
Anytime I try to figure out whats wrong i’ll ask why it is they don’t want me like that anymore they just keep saying they do. But I my mind wont let me believe that anymore.
I never get compliments. They never flirt and they seem to sometimes as much as be disgusted by my showing Interest in that way. I am always turned down. And it has honestly been taking a really big toll on me mentally lately.
I feel like I am no longer good enough. Or maybe that im not beautiful to them anymore or that I have done something wrong.
And worse every time I express that and get the usual “but i do want you” i start to get mad because it feels like a lie. I am 27 and they are 30 and im lucky to get to F once every 2 months and even then they seem to feel like its a chore.
I feel really sad about it but it feels like they don’t take it seriously at all.
Netizens’ comments
- The wedding won’t make this better.
- Without physical compatibility, you are in real trouble, because what you want and need from a partner is something your partner is not willing to give.
You need to have a Hard Conversation with your fiancee, ASAP. Tell them how you feel, and ask frankly whether your partner is going through something temporary or if this is just the way they are. Because if its the latter, there is nothing you can do about it but separate – they won’t (and likely can’t) change. - Postpone the wedding.
- Why does everyone still believe getting married will solve their relationship issues? I mean if you can’t read the writing on the wall, then your marriage is doomed from the start.