(25M) (26F) My fwb wants me to be his gf, under the condition that i lose weight
So i’ve been sleeping with this guy for like a year and i’ve pretty much fallen for him. He has always treated me well, with much patience, love and respect. The whole thing really felt like a relationship, the only thing missing was the title.
In the beginning he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship because of his abusive ex. Today he confessed that loves me and thinks i’m the best woman he knows and would like to be in a relationship with me, but he is not attracted to me. The tl;dr is basically: in the beginning he was in it just to get his D wet, then he fell for my “personality”, so he thought the love he had for me would be enough and he would grow to love my body too, but he can’t.
The thing i’m most upset about is that he waited so long to tell me that my weight bothered him. It never felt like an issue. He never put me down for it, it never came up. I always felt loved and accepted.
I am overweight. (167cm,95kg) I wish i was confident enough to be like “f him i’m perfect” but i’m also not the happiest about my current weight. He does not have some unrealistic expectations of me being a skinny model, he just wants me to be “healthier”
I’m not really sure what to do. Should i lose the weight and be with him? Is he an a-hole, am i looking at this through rose colored glasses because of my love for him? Should i end it all?
Thanks in advance for the comments.