Alright, I promised to give an update on my situation and honestly I feel like writing about things has been pretty helpful to me, so here goes:
Several people on my initial post advised that I should speak with a therapist before seeing or speaking with either of my parents. I called one I had seen a few times in the past, and she was able to book me in for an emergency session, and she really helped me work through what I saw, as well as my worries, and constructing a list of questions to ask my mom when I spoke with her.
I met with my mother over the weekend. My friend who I’m staying with, and her boyfriend went with me for moral support, but they hung back and let me talk to my mother alone.
I’m not going to go through our entire conversation because we talked for over an hour, but it was pretty much what I had feared. She was roleplaying as me when I walked in on her and Dad. She wouldn’t confirm how long it had been going on, but gave me a list of several pieces of my clothing (3 dresses, then two of my sleep sets) which she had previously borrowed.
She claims they were all cleaned thoroughly before returning them, and I have no reason to believe she wouldn’t have cleaned them, but I’m never going to wear any of those things again regardless. It was probably stupid of me, but I asked which one of them came up with the idea for her to roleplay as me. According to her, it was her own idea.
I still really don’t feel comfortable seeing or talking to my Dad, and he hasn’t reached out since I walked in on them either so I guess he isn’t comfortable talking to me about it either.
My Dad was at work when I spoke with her, I made sure of that because I wanted to be able to go by the house and get a few more of my things. She let me go there alone with my friends and get the things I needed, before going back to her place.
I’m still working on where I go from here: I ended up having to fully explain the situation to my friend’s parents. They were both extremely understanding, and are willing to let me rent their spare bedroom for a few months while I figure something else out.
So yeah, that’s pretty much all that’s happened. I doubt I’ll update beyond this, but I’m sincerely thankful to everybody who reached out and tried to help me.