A netizen shared how she had a fight with her boyfriend because she felt they weren’t spending enough time together, and she cries at night because of it.
Here is the story:
“Me and my bf had this fight two years in. Mainly because I felt like we aren’t spending enough time together and when I brought up that topic he went all mad.
He would choose to cancel our plans last min to meet with his friends instead, gave me promises but broke them anyway, and I’ve found his habit of blaming ppl (sth like gaslighting) when something goes wrong.
I’m not sure when he developed all those traits & habits but I didn’t notice them when we were friends or at the beginning of dating….
So… when I tried to talk about those He’s like “What do you want me to do?” It seems like he couldn’t change for the better and I also felt that maybe I was pushing too hard to spend more time with me.
Stupid of me to think that only if I could change my perspectives and be more understanding, we could fix this again.
Tried to be accommodating
I tried to adjust myself to his plans. Our meet-ups become unplanned ones and even if they got canceled, I tried not to feel hurt. I would pretend to enjoy every little time we have together but at the back of my mind, it was like, this man would ditch me any min for something else.
This man will shout at me for every little thing that goes wrong when it’s not even my fault…TBH, when I adjusted myself, our relationship overall improved but I’m always in a terrified state.
Some days, it gets really exhausting and I will burst out crying at night. I don’t even know why am I trying anymore…. doubting whether I can continue like this…”
Editor’s note: He doesn’t deserve you, it’s time to move on…