A guy shared how he is not on talking terms with his parents and doesn’t know if he should invite them to his wedding.
Here is the story:
I’m a 30-year-old male who isn’t on talking terms with my parents. It has been this way for many years.
I have no issues socializing and having a good time with people and friends, but whenever I encounter my parents my disposition immediately switches to defensive mode and I get physically and psychologically tense in scenarios whereby I’m forced to sit with them (I.e. dinners).
I will only feel relieved when they leave me alone.
I sometimes worry about my wedding day as we’re expected to have our parents around and it’s supposed to be a happy occasion.
For those who have been in a similar situation, how did you all approach it?
Tricky situation yeah.
How would you approach your wedding day if you no longer talk to your parents anymore? Would you still invite them even if they make you feel uncomfortable?
Netizens comments
One of the more unique weddings I’ve been to: Bride and Groom decided to sit with their closest friends throughout the entire wedding dinner.
They don’t have any issues with the parents- they just felt like doing so, and their parents sat with their own extended families.
They went to check on their families every now and then, but we had an uproarious time at the main table since everyone there had history with the bride and groom and exchanged plenty of stories.
It wasn’t awkward or anything; ultimately it’s your wedding and you’re paying = your rules. No one can tell you if you’re being filial or not if you choose to have or not have them there.
But think about 20 years ahead, would it matter if your future kids know you’re estranged from their grandparents, or would you like to show them that you were able to overcome your own struggles and accept them in your life (albeit under your own terms)?
If it’s something that might bother you on your death bed / cause regret, it’s best to bite the bitter bullet for the moment, and look back and be proud of yourself for whatever decision you make.