GUY BROKE UP WITH GF & NOW GOT NO MORE FRIENDS OR ANYONE TO TALK TO BESIDES HER

Is it normal to not have friends?

hi all. i’m 23 this year. i just broke up with my girlfriend and while i am happy that she is able to cope well with the breakup by constantly going out with her friends, i cant help but feel jealous too because i have no friends to hang out with or even talk to.

i’m currently studying in uni but I can’t seem to make any real friends in school due to my introvertedness. i often see alot of people my age going out, going on trips together, having fun and trying out new things.

i wished that i could have that kind of social life. i feel so lonely all the time especially after this breakup. is it normal to not have friends?

Netizens’ comments

1. Normal ah.
   I used to have a number of friends. But over the time, also sianz alr. Becoz of various reasons, like personality ah, all kinds of reasons. Now I only have like 2 good friends.
   Life is definitely quieter now. But I think can treat it as some form of peacefulness.
2. There’s 2 questions to ask:
   are your friends worth keeping?
   are you a friend worth keeping?
   Could be that you do have friends, you just had not been keeping in touch with them.
   You can try to rekindle old friendships, if the answer is yes, to both the questions up there.
3. I am personally quite introverted myself and don’t really go out of my way to make friends. But I am comfortable just lazing around at home because I get enough interaction at work. I guess it’s not an issue if whether it’s normal or not, but whether you are comfortable with it.
4. Not having friends is definitely stigmatised, but I believe it is the new normal now. I’m 25 this year. Most of my friendships began to shed over time after poly and NS. Friends travel / migrate for prospects outside of SG; friends gotten married and spend more time focusing on family.
   Loneliness does come and go, but I’ve learnt to accept and live with it which reduces the intensity a fair bit. Introversion mixed with social anxiety and loneliness is a combination not many will be able to pull through. Humans are social creatures after all. But I’m glad I did on my own.