Broke up with my girlfriend because she said I need to ask for consent before kissing her on lips
I (19m)recently got into my 6th-7th relationship with an 18f. I was her first boyfriend, this was her first relationship.
We were really both into each other, we connected very well, everything was going amazing! We had kissed multiple times, we haven’t been intimate in bed just yet. We had kissed while dancing, while walking while doing anything. Things were going like a dream.
3 weeks into our relationship and at this one party night, we danced and kissed, had fun. Next day, she calls me and asks to me to meet her, she brings her friend with her like she’s her bodyguard or some shit. They both tell me that I need to slow down and that I need to ask for consent before kissing her on lips as it makes her uncomfortable and anxious because she’s inexperienced. Kissing anywhere else is okay, hugging is okay but I need to ask before I kiss on the lips.
I’d like to clarify here that I never once forced her to kiss, it was all we were feeling the moment and we both leaned into the kiss. If she didn’t wanna, she could’ve given me some hint and I could’ve backed off. I was completely taken by surprise by this. She even brought her friend to talk on her behalf as if she was somehow scared of me to talk about it. I was completely shocked and felt betrayed.
I simply told her I can’t continue this as I feel betrayed,embarrassed and shocked. She kinda showed that she doesn’t trust me by bringing her friend to talk bout this. She could’ve told me that herself and we could’ve discussed it. This has never happened to me before.
Since then I’m constantly overthinking that maybe I overreacted. Maybe I should’ve given her more time to slowly ease into how relationships work… maybe she brought her friend because she was too shy to tell me that herself… or maybe she was scared of me? What? It’s just breaking my mind if I did the right thing… I was really into this person and losing her hurts. Idk what to feel…