“I have been dating a close friend for about 9 months. She was the one who made the first move and I felt bad to reject her. I decided to give it a shot although I didn’t see her more than a friend. Now it’s been 9 months and I’m still not feeling anything towards her. I take care of her because I don’t want to be a jerk. But I don’t do any couple stuff with her because I don’t want to take advantage of her since I don’t see her as a potential future partner.
It’s been a few months that I have not been initiating dates and I tried to avoid letting her hold my hands. I have been doing all this hoping that she will get it and end things with me. But she still doesn’t get it and is still sticking with me.
I’m worried it will affect her self-esteem if I’m the one who initiate the break up. But I really don’t want to prolong this any longer. I think this holidays is the best time to break up so that she will have some time to recover and we can get some distance from each other. We are still gonna see each other when school starts as we are from the same course and have many mutual friends. So it will be awkward if things get ugly during the break up. How do I make her understand that we are not working out without making her feel small about herself? She’s a nice girl but I’m just not in love with her.
Appreciate all your suggestions!”
Submitted Thursday, 21/12
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