Coping with close colleagues resignation
One of my close colleagues just gave his resignation and I’m quite sad about it, and it’s taking up a bit of my headspace. I’m not new to seeing colleagues (this is my third job) leaving, but it’s doesn’t get easier each time especially with colleagues you are close with.
I know the usual spiel of colleagues are not your friends etc etc, but we’ve spent time together and could genuinely click with each other. It’s almost like a breakup.
My company is nice and i’ve no intention of leaving yet, but his departure will leave a hole for sure.
And the reality is that the relationship will most likely taper off as he transitions. I do still keep in contact with a some ex colleagues but it has drastically reduced to the occasional meal due to other commitments, and I know this is likely going to be the case, or just drop off entirely.
- Well if he reciprocates this feeling, time to be friends outside work.
- you can be friends outside of work. my closest friends today are my previous colleagues and we got closer when we all left
- Look on the bright side. You can only truly become friends after you stop being colleagues.
- Hey, i feel ya. I have a few colleagues who are my close friends. If/when they leave, i would be devastated
not gonna lie, like you said, the relationship would be different once they leave coz you just won’t see each other on a daily basis anymore. I feel unfortunately nothing much will make you feel better but the passage of time. Don’t feel bad or ashamed about it, it shows that you’re human n that you have forged a great friendship.
You can only be happy for them & hope that they will be cherished in their new workplace. Maybe try n see if there are other colleagues you might click with? Join some social activities or sth?
I realise after working for a while that there are people that you might not necessarily think you have a lot in common with but after getting to know them better, you actually do. It may not be the same as your friend who’s leaving but might make work more bearable. And don’t forget to keep in touch with non work friends too, that helps as well.