A Singaporean man recently took to Facebook to share on how crappy his life was. He stated on how he discovered his child not to be his and his wife left him for another man. But he still continued to take care of his ex-wife’s child even though the child is not his. Even his own family did not acknowledge the child.
Here is the full story.
I understand how you feel. I also discovered my child ( I prefer to keep the gender of my child a secret) not to be mine after certain years. My wife left me for another man as well, but I continued to care for my child despite all of my friends, parents and relatives’ comments and opinions.
My child was disowned by my parents as he/she is not of my flesh and blood. I urge you to keep this secret away from your parents in order not to destroy the child’s childhood, and for ease of managing their expectations, comments, opinions etc. The child is innocent, and they should not bear the burden cast upon by the mother.
Till today, I still treat my child just like he / she is my flesh and blood. A child should not be disowned just because the mother did something wrong. Not many people agree with what I do for my child, but screw them. All I want is my child to know I am his / her father, and I always have her back. I already have a strong bond with my child, I cannot just forsake him / her just because their DNA do not match with mine. But the world just do not understand this simple logic.
Some of you people commenting, says cool story bro, but, such sad state of affairs do really happen in real life. People who know my story says can shoot movie already. My history is similar but mine is more drama than what you’re going through now.
My business failed after I discovered my wife has an affair. My life spiralled out of control after that. By the debt I clear my debt, I should be in my late 30s already. I have no more savings now.
After so many years, any women that I dated found out my history, left me quickly as they cannot accept that I want to continue to care for this child whom I still treat as my flesh and blood. They cannot comprehend why do I still want to take care, keep in touch with a child whose DNA do not match with me. It’s very sad to see that our society is still very conservative about DNA matching with the father, and disowning the child right away should the child’s DNA do not match with the father. Family ties is more than just DNA.
Having a child whose DNA do not match with me, with no more savings, it’s hard to get a someone new that will stay till I am up on my feet and money in my bank account up again. Reality bites. Hang in there brother.