I thought we had a good intimate life, we were open and honest (I thought), had intercourse on average every other day, and had been together for just over 3 years.
My gf has always been secretive, but I never had any reason to think it was a red flag. One day she got a suspicious text though, so I logged in to her phone and saw very clear evidence of her cheating.
What struck me though was that she was extremely graphic about her “needs” and how I wouldn’t be able to meet them because I am not into it (I won’t go into detail about what they are). I am not vanilla by any means and am more than happy to try new things, so I am stumped as to why she didn’t bring this up with me and instead resorted to cheating.
Over the next few days I was deliberating on what to do, and what I settled on is extremely petty and may make me an asshole.
After a couple of drinks for Dutch courage, I initiated and immediately started to do the kinds of things she described in those messages. She was clearly taken off guard, but in a good way as she was very much enjoying herself, a lot more than usual. In fact, I can’t lie, it was amazing seeing how vocal she was about how it felt etc and I almost didn’t follow through with what I did next.
I was edging her for a while (part of what she described as loving in the texts) and was making her beg and plead to allow her to come.
I obliged and as she was convulsing and screaming, I leaned into her ear and told her what I saw and that she was now dumped, while she was coming.
I then left the room and the apartment after grabbing a few things.
Since then I haven’t spoken to her and don’t plan to, but she has been blowing up my phone (I haven’t opened the messages).