I make $2 million / year and am completely alone
I [37M] am lucky to have a job that I enjoy, am good at, and get paid way too much money to do. [I have rare expertise in a field that’s in extremely high demand.] I have enough saved that I could retire, but I’d just do this kind of work in my retirement for fun anyway.
Everyone believes I’m doing great, but in truth I’m deeply lonely. Despite making dating a top priority over the past three years, I’m still single.
My biggest problem is I want someone who “gets” me, and that’s hard to find because my work is such a big part of my life and I’m in a very male-dominated field.
Dates will ask me what my hobbies are, and I’ll explain that my work is my hobby, and then they’ll look at me weird.
I’ve met a few women that are compatible on this dimension, but there’s always been some other dimension where we’re incompatible like humor, attraction, or wanting kids.
I’m torn between desperately wanting someone I can come home to and share a hug with, or sticking it out and waiting for someone with whom I feel a genuine connection.
I’m getting older and want kids, but the thought of “settling” terrifies me. It’s a fear that honestly keeps me up at night.
I know it’s cliché, but I would gladly trade my fortune for a relationship with someone I truly love.
A lot of people are asking what I do. I don’t want to give too many identifying details away, but I work in tech. I did a PhD, then worked in academia as a postdoc/professor for a while, and then it turned out my fun little esoteric field of study had real-world potential, so I was lured to industry.