How to get over the fear of seeing my ex girlfriend in public?
I dated a girl when I was 19 in ITE, we had a very messy and confusing relationship and our breakup was something very traumatising for me and I changed a lot when we broke up
I closed off myself from the world and rarely went out and developed a fear of going out to NTUC or social events as I’m scared of bumping into her
Since we broke up in late 2018, I haven’t been able to attend social events or do normal things people do when interacting with the outside world
I’m honestly so tired and I don’t have a way to do therapy so that’s not an option,
Idk I hope I can find a way to fix this. I am so tired of living like this
- You most likely won’t see her. I haven’t bumped into my ex since we broke up, and it’s been… almost 10 years already.
- Unfortunately, it definitely sounds like your initial worry has developed into something more. IMO it’s not normal to be scared of merely bumping into your ex 4 years after your breakup. Though everyone’s trauma is different.
I have a feeling no matter the statistics people comment about the likelihood of you bumping into your ex, it may not help. I mean, irrational phobias are exactly that, irrational. But anyway, Singapore is not that small- I’ve dated quite a few people and can barely remember the times I bumped into my exes. Even when I do, if it’s an ex I ended on bad terms with, I just give them a polite wave and move along.
Maybe you can read up on agoraphobia? It sounds like that might be the issue. Might help you to understand & manage the anxiety you have about it.