My dad is revealing something quite saddening about my mom & why she cheated on him
My (23M) parents (50M & 45F) got a bitter divorce some 10 years ago. It was totally devastating and life altering for me. I never had an “explanation” then, their fights were just overwhelming at that point and I couldn’t bother. Individually I love them both, very much so.
Lately my dad learned that mom is getting married and moving. He was motivated to tell me about the reason why he hated her. Basically, he claims that she cheated on him and admitted to have never loved him.
According to him, my mom told him she only married him for his looks so she can have kids with him. I vaguely brought the issue to my mom and was taken off guard that she didn’t deny cheating.
She said this was preemptive cheating because she would always find out about him contacting ex’s all the time.
Back to my dad, he said that she’s lying since these ex’s were just his friends, and my mom only thought he slept with them in the past. He said she wanted to control him all the time and restrict his contacts with others. He actually teared up and said she ruined his social life and was extremely obsessive.
I’m shocked to learn about this tbh. I love my mom but I’m gutted to know that she actually cheated on him. I treated her with respect but now I’m not sure if she deserves this respect anymore. I’m talking to her again soon, idk what to say.
Edit. Guys with all due respect I’m NOT asking you for judgement on whether telling me was a good idea or not. I have been asking for this information for years. I want to navigate the information carefully, so please stick to giving advice on that. Otherwise just keep scrolling.