I pay for everything in the house but it’s not enough for my mum
Recently I found out my mum has been going around telling people I gave her very little allowances and refused to let her retired. I used to give her monthly allowance 600 which 200 goes to my dad and 400 goes to her. Pub bills, Groceries, anything you name it I am the one paying for it. That include bringing her for nice restaurants dining and travelling.
I got a brother who does not work for past 4 years and a sister who married off.
If my sister came home, I’m expected to “entertain” her kids or sometimes bring the kids out and eat all expenses on me. My mum will tell me your sister they are not doing so well plus having 2 kids so money not enough to use, I need to spend on them.
My brother who does not work did not take money from me but I paid every single things at home. He just idle at home doing some housework or watch YouTube, Netflix eg
Since, my mum express her wish to retired so I tell her just retired, and I start giving her 1.6k per month and she still feel her money not enough she now saying she don’t want retired till I give her more.
She goes around telling my relative and friends I’m very spendthrift.
I’m single 41 this year, I earning 12k per month. Investment and saving I put aside portion of money, and I don’t spend on top end branded clothing/bag. I love good food I spent quite a fair bit on good restaurants with my family and friends and holiday.
My mum tell my relative, her brother last time use to work and pass her most of his salary to save which is why he can afford not to work. I rolled my eye because he never paid a single cent to the family which is why can pass her lots of money to save. I even paid for his mobile after he graduated and his holiday expenses when we goes on family trip.
I can’t be giving her all my own money for saving in the event if anything happen to her my brother and sister will want the money to be spilt among them. I’m single I still need own money for old age.
Because of this family I been giving in a lot my ex bf cannot take it we always argue till we broke off 8 years ago and I also single thereafter.
I always wonder I’m doing too little or too much for my family. Till I deserve my mum going behind my back telling tales and my auntie will come tell me.