My (23f) boyfriend (24m) ripped out my hair and now I have a bald spot. Help?
My boyfriend likes to hold my hair when I give him head, he likes to pull sometimes do and move my head (I know he does this because I’m not fast enough sometimes. I get that).
However, I have told him multiple times before that he needs to be careful because I have thin hair and sometimes he gives me major headaches from banging my head around too much.
He’s always been fairly understanding of this but last night it seems like he got a little too carried away since he pulled too hard on my head and ripped a chunk of my hair out.
I stopped and cried my eyes out because it’s my hair!! And now it’s gone and I told him so!!! He told me he couldn’t help it because he got too “carried away in the moment” so he “couldn’t control the force he was going at”. I ended up going home and I haven’t heard from him since last night.
Luckily my stylist is willing to stay late tomorrow to help fix the spot, but I’m still feeling extremely emotional over what happened.
I want to talk about it with him when I’m less upset but I honestly don’t know what to say other than “I f-ng told you so”. Any advice on how to approach this?
TLDR; boyfriend ripped out my hair when i was blowing him. Hasn’t fully apologized and haven’t heard from him in 24 hours. How do I talk about it with him?
Netizens’ comments
- “You don’t respect me. This is over.”
- He was told not to do something and he just kept doing it until you had your hair ripped out. And even then he’s trying to justify it?
If you can’t trust him to respect your boundaries, you shouldn’t sleep with him. For your own safety. - I’m kinda curious what you think the options are here. I mean above and beyond dumping him.