One of my best guy friends sent me some really shocking messages. It wasn’t even some normal nonsense. It was really really weird… And in one of the messages he even said he loved me (I’m pretty sure that’s what he tried to write) God I’m feeling disgusted. I don’t know what to do.
He basically text something along: He wants to spread the butter and use his tongue to taste every aspect of my body. (the text he send was more adult and disgusting than my description)
How to react. I’m so freaking shocked. That’s what he thinks of me? How can I even look at him again?
I confronted him
We talked. He swears he didn’t do it on purpose and it was all because our chat was open. I don’t know still. He said some really hurtful things… I said I wanted to end the friendship cauise I can’t trust him anymore. And he begged me (literally begged me) not to. His voice even cracked and I thought he was gonna cry.
And for one reason or another, that made me feel more sick and disgusted.
I think many of you guys would be thinking that he started talking dirty when I rejected him. No, it wasn’t like that. I just didn’t say anything. He kinda sent all of his messages at the same time.
Wasn’t waiting for me to say anything. And suddenly got off the phone
Here are what netizens think:
- Drunk or not he has changed the dynamic of the friendship. If you decide to get back to a format of normalcy, first you have to set strict boundaries. Also you should inform your partner of the situation which might push you to end 1 or the other due too her possibly feeling uncomfortable. In the end it will be upsetting but he is the one who changed it. Doesn’t make him right or wrong in itself but how he respects your decisions afterwards.
- If he had just been slightly flirty, or just revealed that he was crushing on you, I wouldn’t blame him for that or hold it against him. But he obviously was intentionally making you uncomfortable by being disgustingly dirty  because he knows you don’t want him back. I don’t care that he was drunk, that’s a shitty thing to do to someone. I don’t see how you can be friends with him after this and I don’t think you should try either. He’s shown what kind of person he is.