My boyfriend got a happy ending massage and a STI
As per title yesterday my boyfriend of 4 years confessed he got a happy ending massage; while I was away on holiday.
Long story short we went on holiday but he went back home before me because I had more holidays and wanted to spend extra time with my family.. 4 weeks go by, I get home a few days ago and yesterday he dropped the bomb.
While I was away (roughly a week before I got home) he visited a massage parlor while still a bit drunk from the night before, not only that but as the person was rubbing him out, he started to give her some oral too and that’s how he contracted an STI, even though he says he retracted from it cause he didn’t want oral.
He didn’t tell me straight away because I was back home with my family and he didn’t want to ruin my holiday and our relationship while I was having a great time, and also not to put me in the situation of being on a plane for 20+ hours sitting in my own thoughts worrying.
He’s definitely feeling like crap because of it, he can’t explain WHY he did it, he says that this is the first time in 4 years that he does something behind my back and he wants forgiveness.
Now, something I was so sure of was that he’d never cheat on me cause he’s always been an advocate for a monogamous honest relationship and this honestly destroyed any trust I had in him.
I told him that I have no idea how to process this mentally so the best thing is to try and keep it neutral until we go see a psychologist for some couple counseling, he’ll be paying for it and he says he’s willing to do anything in his power to make this right and that he doesn’t want to lose me for something stupid that he unfortunately did.
He seems very apologetic and willing to fix this, he says he’s sorry for the pain he’s causing me and for jeopardizing our relationship.. but now all those words feel empty to me.
Any advice? Thank you! 🙏