Is it okay for a mother to enforce curfews on her sons when they’re grown up?
I am a 24M in university, and I still get called up at pre-midnight hours by my mother to get back home asap. I do like to enjoy my time with friends and s/o and that sometimes exceeds certain hours of the day.
Usually the easiest solution is to ignore or appease, but the same issue keeps popping up over the years. It sucks when your friends and s/o overhear my conversations with my mum, and to know I as an adult still get given a curfew.
As far as I know, my older sibling got the same treatment as well, and the way he handled it was by ignoring all the nagging and reprimanding.
I really dislike conflicting with my mother as it gets more tiresome (she can keep rambling on and on, sometimes leaving for 2-3min and coming back/calling on the phone multiple times after she thought about what else to nag about).
She claims it’s because I have work/school/etc reasons and need to be alert throughout the day (which I’ve never demonstrated my incapability for).
Honestly the best solution was to stay in student housing, but that isn’t applicable all of the time (and won’t be after I graduate).
What should I do? Is this parenting gone too far, or am I just being a brat?
Netizens’ comments
I was like you once, when i was in my 20s. my mom would always call nearing midnight, even when i get to 30+ she’ll still call to check in on me any time I get home late. She does it for both me and my elder sis who’s wayyyy older.
My mom passed on 2 years ago, and man oh man, what I would give to get that phone call again and hear her voice on the other end.
One day all our moms will stop calling, in the mean time when they do, pick up the damn phone and say you’ll be back soon. Nothing to be embarrassed about, your mom loves you.