my girlfriend is too hot, and I keep busting immediately…
I’m super down right now. I can’t satisfy my girlfriend.
It always just ends in barely putting it in, and then I panic and fluids go everywhere, and I’m apologizing like some kind of gardener tending to plants.
I know I’m better than most of you already, but I just wonder if there isn’t something more out there for me – like someone who loves me for me.
But as someone who actually struggled with feelings around this I just thought I’d share on the off chance this is real and just a creative way to talk about your feelings
With my ex I would usually finish very quickly (this is very normal especially if you’re a bit younger like me), and that really shouldn’t be and wasn’t an issue. Tbh I personally felt like I could satisfy her in other ways better. However she would always be super disappointed, and would make that clear, when I came, which I now realize I definitely should have told her wasn’t great. It would become a thing where I literally apologized the very moment I came. The point of orgasm should be pleasurable, not a moment of shame and apology, that is entirely backwards.
There’s definitely more to say and I could elaborate based on my own experiences but this is something that I know realize has actually stuck with me and harmed the way I feel about intimacy and busting quick. The first time with my new gf I came quite unexpectedly during foreplay, and she was just happy for me and I was struck by feeling ‘Whaaat, so this is what a proper response should feel like’ . I also now manage to last way longer with her, which is probably completely unrelated but could be connected.
This is why I just wanted to tell you to break this pattern of thinking. Of course it doesn’t have to be over because you finish, and if this post is real then it definitely sounds like you have some bad habits of thinking about orgasms. It’s not healthy to feel that way and you shouldn communicate this to whomever you’re playing tennis with and figure out a way to make yourself more relaxed about this, which will result in a batter game of tennis for both of you