I am 25 (M). My highest qualification is a diploma. I currently serve in the force. Furthermore, I am not an officer so I don’t really earn that much. I just take home about 2.7K every month. I am content with the work I do but not so much about my pay and career progression this far.
I am left with about 3 years of minimum term service. Recently, I was informed that based on various requirements not made known to me, I do not qualify for a sponsorship in further studies even though I have a uni course placing. It’s really depressing as I always thought of myself being on the short end but this gets to me quite a bit. I have lost a lot of confidence in myself over the years.
Due to various developments and circumstances over the years, I don’t have any close friends. In fact, I don’t have any friends at all and it’s been like that for the past 5 and a 1/2 years.
I have never been able to really fit in and at work. I was not able to assimilate myself into any of the existing cliques. So this is the first advice I really need… I don’t really have anyone to do anything with.. What kind of meetup or interest groups are there? I am interested in sports and gaming, so maybe that helps?
Needless to say, my dating life has been really stale and disappointing. Mostly being very disappointed in myself as even when I do things right, even when I don’t make any big mistakes, even when I treat them right and cater to their emotional needs.. It always ends with something along lines of “Next pls”, “There are better options”, “You’re not an option”, “Just another poor guy”, “You’re an okay guy at best but nahhh”, “Not worth the time and investment”.
What’s your experience with dating apps and meeting others from those apps? I tried using them time and time again but I don’t really get any matches.. I do get the occasional match once every 2 weeks but I ‘ve seen someone else at my workplace who gets like 5 everyday, Idk how.. Maybe it’s the pics I use or I need to wear better clothes? Maybe it’s because he showcases his car? What’s your experience with these apps? Are there any other ways to meet potential partners? Perhaps through meetup or interest groups that I alr mentioned?
I’ve been thinking to myself that maybe doing some things solo might not be so bad afterall.. Like solo trips to other countries etc. Any suggestions on activities that are actually more fun to do alone rather than a group?
It more or less seems like I will be the type to live alone and die alone with many regrets.. For a long time, I thought that was okay but I don’t feel that way anymore. Any advice is much appreciated 🙂