GUY LOST HIS FATHER TO AN ACCIDENT, ASKING FOR HELP TO HANDLE GRIEF

A netizen shared how he recently lost his father to an accident and is experiencing grief for the first time, not knowing how to handle it.

Here is the story

Long story short, lost my father to an accident recently. As I’m only in my 20s, this is my first time feeling what actual grief is like.

We have always been close and I would always make it a point to eat dinner with him, no matter how late it is.

How do you guys handle grief? I understand that there’s always professional help but I would like to hear some other methods on getting over this hurdle. TIA.

Netizens’ comment

• There are 5 stages of grief. They’re like checkpoints for you to cross. You don’t have to cross it linearly. There will be days where you regress and have to ‘rerun’ this race. There is no special sauce in dealing with grief other than trusting that time will heal your wounds. You have to trust the process. When my grandfather died, I thought about him everyday when I wake up. It felt depressing but as the months rolled by, I thought of him less and less. That’s when I know I’m making progress.

Moving on and dealing with grief doesn’t mean we forget the loved ones that has passed, but rather, accepting the situation for what it is, taking the time to process your emotions and do our best to live a life they would have wanted us to live.

Today you might not be alright, and for awhile that might be the recurring theme. But one day, you’ll be okay. Lots of hugs for you. You’ll be okay. Keep busy in the mean time. As quickly as the negative emotions overwhelm you, as quickly it will recede.

• I lost my dad in my early 20s too. Even a decade later, I still dream sometimes that he’s alive and we somehow mistook somebody else’s death as his and we all happy after reuniting with him. The dream is always so happy, wake up and feel like shit.

The frequency of such dreams have reduced over the years but still happen occasionally man. Death of a close loved one is tough.

One quote from the marvel series that resonated with me a lot is: “What is grief if not love persevered”. just have to process it and accept it. There’s no other fucking way