I (21f) paid for my bf(23m) for our entire vacation.
So I (21f) recently flew to Bali for 13 days, Little back story I don’t live with my boyfriend (23m) and we have been dating for two years,
He makes about $300 more than me per week and we have similar expenses, before this we split joint expenses perfectly 50/50 and have had a stress free relationship.
So during December my parents were kind enough to book me and my boyfriend a trip to Bali as my Christmas/21st birthday present, they paid for the flights and accommodation everything else was up to us, It was booked for early March.
All went well and then a week before we were meant to leave I asked bf “hey have you saved up some money for our vacay” he responded “yeah no stress”
But two days into our holiday he ran out of money and I had to pay for everything including his, food, drinks, alcohol and cabs, he even asked for $50 for gambling, because he literally wouldn’t pay
The total was around $1700 for both of us when I confronted him he said well “sorry I can’t touch my savings, I didn’t budget right I guess”.
When I asked if he was going to make it up to me somehow he said half of my spending doesn’t count as spending anyways because it was my “birthday money” that’s referring to the about $400 cash I got from my friends to spend. His only saving grace is he paid for his half of activities we did like the zipping ect.
I just want some advice as to if I’m over reacting as I am pretty upset and hold some resentment or if I should just drop it and be grateful I had a good time. Other then this he’s loving and sweet
- What were his savings for if not to use on holiday? Does he expect you to fund most things usually?
- You should consider his behaviour a red flag. Considered your parents paid for his flights and accommodation and he did not feel the need to reprocicate and to cover some of your expenses is a selfish and unkind behaviour. He is just thinking of himself and his entitlement. Like you inviting him puts all the financial burden on you.
- You ask him to pay you half of the money and then you break up with him.