helloo i’ll be enlisting this year and im a little worried about interacting with guys.
i know its a weird issue.. but I’ve never really had a guy friend before (i was an unsociable kid in school and only made a small group of friends all of which are girls) i don’t know why i avoided guys in my school back then but what’s done is already done
my family only has sisters and my cousins are majority girls (2 boys but they’re in primary school) which made it worse for me ( i do love them , it’s just I would like to have a brother/ guy cousin near my age)
in poly i’m also the only guy in class for 3 years straight and i feel that i forgot how to talk to a guy (if that even makes sense?) i even signed up for a Cca just to make some guy friends but i was the only guy in my cca session :/.
The only few guys that i talk to are my sisters boyfriends (sometimes even my friend’s boyfriends) and they keep telling me that ill be just fine and that its a good chance to make some guys friends
thus why i’m a little excited going into ns, tho i’m leaning more towards anxious
since majority of you here are guys how should i interact with all of you? Am i thinking too much into it? Should i be worried? I tried talking to myself in the mirror but i’m really not sure anymore
Netizens’ comments
- There is nothing to worry about mate, u dont need to always try to engage urself in your bunkmate’s conversation or what, just try to find common interest. And dont talk about others on their back or screw things up for them by saboing them or something. We are all here to serve, just get the two years over with and carry on with life 🙂
- Ummmmm, it may be a little hard at the beginning I admit, but trust me you would get used to it. Like I faced a similar situation that I mainly had female friends. When you enlist, most people will be kind of hesitant and awkward for the first few days and its perfectly fine, but gradually somehow from just doing activities together you would warm up. Most of the common topics would be like uni or future job, maybe even scholarships if you have ambitious people around. Before enlisting I had this preconceived notion I admit that it would be hard to talk to guys about emotional stuff but what I learnt is that like all stereotypes it does not represent all people. So ya wish u luck, it can really be nerve wracking but just try the few common topics, maybe share a little about yourself and things should get going from there.