A girl shared how her boyfriend is always sleeping and ends up late for their dates and etc.
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Hi seeking some advice here! Sometimes I cannot tolerate my bf. We have been together for 1 year plus and he is a working adult, 27 years old, and I have noticed some habits of his that made me rethink our relationship
He likes to stay up late till 1-2 am especially during weekends. Sometimes to meet friends and then play cards, game, or watch basketball matches. He does it even if he has work the next day, then he will end up telling me he is feeling very tired, or he would wake up late and then rush to work with a cab.
Other days if he has no work, he would then sleep in until 1 or 2 pm and then wake up. I really don’t understand why he does this. I find it so unhealthy to sleep at such a timing, and I question his time management.
You know you have to wake up early the next morning, then why not have some self discipline to sleep early and play other times? At least you will feel less tired, able to wake up on time so you don’t need to cab to work.
Also, sleeping in the next day makes half the day gone and then you cannot complete what you want to do for the day, which becomes a vicious cycle where you have to stay up late again to complete the tasks and the cycle repeats.
There were also occasions where he woke up late on the day of our date, where we had already arranged a time the day before to meet to go for a meal, but when I reached his house, he was still sleeping because he slept late the day before.
Then I was just stupidly waiting for him to wake up, which I felt was a waste of my time.
I do understand he has his own life and things he want to do as well, but I don’t really know how to bring up to him that sometimes his sleeping habits is affecting our plans together, and I am fearful that what if this happens when we stay together next time?
If he is going to still be sleeping when I am awake and ready for the day’s acitivties, then I guess I would be doing stuff alone in the day while he is still asleep.
Anyone has similar experiences and care to share some tips? Thank you!