I feel kind of lost.
I am happy in my life in most aspect except dating.
Everytime I go after a girl in my life, I keep getting rejected.
The most recent made really question myself.
This girl was a 10/10 in my opinion. She was pretty, kind and had a nice personality.
However, within a few interactions, I realised that she had no interest in me. I mean I would ask about her and try to get to know her but she never really asked much about me and she seemed quite uninterested during our conversations.
I still maintained as friends with her. Slowly, we got closer and even she started to make jokes and seemed interested in talking with me. She also opened up to me more with her personal stuff more.
I was going through a rough patch with some family problems when she needed some help. I went out of my way to help her but I requested that she helped me with something else which she agreed to do so.
She never returned the favour and I felt hurt by it. I told her that I felt hurt and she said sorry but never actually returned the favour. Instead, she came back to me asking for more help. She also said that the time spent where explained that I felt hurt was a waste of time and she didnt even bother to try to understand why I felt hurt which made me feel sick.
She was spending time with her other friends going outing and stuff which made me feel really small and unworthy, as if I am a tissue paper.
I attribute the whole experience to a single point of failure. She wasn’t attracted to me. To put it more bluntly, I wasn’t attractive at all.
I really dont want to go through this at all again.
If I like a girl, I want to at least have a fighting chance at it, not be completely ignored like this. At least, she should want to date me to find out if we are compatible.
I want to be attractive.
The problem is I don’t know what I am lacking or how to approach this.
I have things like studies figured out. For example, for Math, I just need to practice questions and for English, I just need to read a lot.
However, I dont know what I need to do for this.
If there is a method to do this, I would like to know. Are there any requirements to be attractive?
I want to be a 10/10 guy, nothing less than that.
Please help me and thank you from the bottom of my heart if you did.