My boyfriend is quitting his job and wants me to provide for him
My boyfriend and I share an apartment. I go to uni and work part time while he only works part time and doesn’t go to school.
Last week he told me he was enrolling into school again and I was happy for him but then he said he’s going to quit his job.
So now he expects me to pay all the bills and also provide for both of us. I would provide for both of us if I could but I can’t.
I suggested he worked on the weekends only so he could help with some of the bills around and I’d handle the rent but he doesn’t want to.
He insists my job is good enough to pay for everything and he says I should work harder. I don’t know how to nicely tell him that I can’t provide for him without sounding selfish.
Netizens’ comments
Some conversations can’t be all nice. Your BF is being selfish. It’s clear that neither of you have a lot of money. Well, life is hard – and you need a partner who will pull his weight. If he can’t work at least as hard as you work with school and part time work, he’s not the partner you need.
Just imagine yourself with him 10 years from now – trying to juggle work and being a mother – and his expecting you to do it all because he has a job and no energy for sharing the load at home…
Stop worrying about being nice and tell him, “I love you, but you need to do your share – I cannot and will not support you if you aren’t doing your part.”